Noble Company

21 Jul

Bismillah (with the name of God)

Recently I have been rethinking my female company (my only male company is my husband in case you’re wondering why I only said female). I’m going to go over my thought processes, because I think I have learned a lot from it and I hope others can too- God willing.

God, may He be glorified and exalted, said,

‘On that Day, erstwhile friends will be foes unto one another- save the God concious‘ 43:67.

Referring to the Day of Judgement. Re-read that verse. God told us that we will be foes, that means there will be enmity between you and the person you were once friends with. He goes on to say that this will not apply to the God conscious. Think now on what it takes to be one of the God conscious. Think of your friends. This is what I did. And names and faces came to mind slotting into each category. And I remembered that the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, said

‘A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend.’ (Dawood)

And thus began my muse. For many years, I had been taking friends on the basis of enjoying their company. I would have a nice day out with a friend and her friends and make friends like that. I never stopped to consider their character. More often than not, in time their character became apparent and I had to step back and lose yet another friend, or I would see how wonderful they were and keep them around.

Now I see how this can be avoided. Simply, look at the behaviour of a person. Be observant. Do they remember God? Of course we cannot tell who is and isn’t conscious of God because we are not God. We know nothing of intentions, only of actions, and therefore it is the actions we must base our decision on. Surround yourself with those who mention God frequently. Who encourage good deeds and gently guide you away from bad.

Remember it’s a two-way path, we must be God conscious in order to attract the God conscious. We must be good friends, so that we encourage our friends to be the same to us.

Ali ibn Abi Talib, may God be pleased with him, related this story

‘Two who are friends for Allah’s sake; one of them dies and is given good news that he will be granted al-Jannah, so he remembered his friend and he supplicated for him, saying: ‘O Allah, my friend used to command me to obey You and to obey Your Prophet (saws) and used to command me to do good and to forbid me from doing evil. And he told me that I will meet You. O Allah, do not let him go astray after me, until you show him what you have just shown me, until You are satisfied with him, just like You are satisfied with me.’ So he is told: ‘Had you known what is (written) for your friend, would you have laughed a lot and cried a little.’ Then his friend dies and their souls are gathered, and both are asked to express their opinions about each other. So each one of them says to his friend: ‘You were the best brother, the best companion and the best friend.

And when one of the two disbelieving friends dies, and he is given tidings of Hellfire, he remembered his friend and he said: ‘O Allah, my friend used to order me to disobey You and disobey Your Prophet, and commanded me to do evil, and forbade me from doing good, and told me that I would not meet You. O Allah, do not guide him after me, until you show him what you have just shown me and until you are dissatisfied with him just like You are dissatisfied with me.’ Then the other disbelieving friend dies, and their souls are gathered, and both are asked to give their opinions about each other. So each one says to his friend: ‘You were the worst brother, the worst companion and the worst friend.’

The first half is what we want God willing. Choose wisely. Remember that we can take the foul habits of those around us without even realising and on the Day, we will regret it.

~ Khalida

@ItsColdwhereiAm

Read more about Khalida here.

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